The Things I've Missed Out On

Now that I am in a good relationship with a great person. I realize all the many things that I have missed out on over the years.

RESPECT. This is a huge one. Respect doesn't mean controlling another person either physically, emotionally or passive agressively. Respect is a huge thing that makes a relationship wonderful.

Support and understanding. For the first time I am not being told that I am lazy because I am tired and need a nap. I am being supported in my parenting and not compared to a previous person or to a parent or told how I should be parenting. It really does feel wonderful.

Trust. For the first time I am not constantly being accused of cheating on my partner. I felt so awful whenever I would get accused of this. I would never do that to anyone...even as a teen, I only ever dated ONE person at time. I just don't have it in me to cheat on someone.

Communication. Someone that gets my humor. Someone that realizes that sometimes I need time to say what is on my mind. After years of being beaten if I said the "wrong" thing, I am leary to speak out sometimes. He realizes that sometimes I have to send a message on facebook and he is ok with that.

Listening. He listens to me. Even the smallest thing that I say he remembers and it feels great! He remembered that I said I hated the color pink and he played a joke on me by using that information.

Appreciation: He tells me that he appreciates every thing that I do for him. In the past men have taken for granted everything that I have done for them. I am a very giving person. I would give you anything that I had if you needed it. Even if it meant that I would go without. I am just that way. The men from the past have expected me to give and give and give and they would give back very little in return or complain when I didn't always do what I had done in the past. Almost like it was suddenly my JOB to do the things that I was doing out of consideration for them.

I am so happy to finally be in a relationship that is allowing me to learn what a healthy relationship is all about. I am so happy and content right and it feels GREAT!